Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and physical health is not diminished and negatively effected. So many loved ones or family members of those with BPD and/or NPD are in so much pain as the result of the level and frequency of abuse they are on the receiving end of from these personality disordered people in their lives.